Reliving the Past

The other day my mother who has been staying with me for the last 4 months told me that she won’t be able to visit again as she has become too old.

On this visit it’s the first time I felt that my mother really has started looking old and it scares me a bit. How many years has she left with us I wonder? Don’t get me wrong, her health is excellent and apart from some pains and aches she doesn’t have any problems. But when one keeps losing relatives of her age or younger, one can’t help but wonder.

My mother had her children after 16 years of marriage. I think we have kept her young. Nobody could tell the age difference of almost a generation gap between us. She used to keep herself busy, cooking and painting and meeting her friends. But after my father died she stopped doing all these things. She even stopped wearing bangles and it looked strange to see her empty wrists.

And somewhere along the way negativity crept into her life. I have noticed that a lot. If I talk to her about some new project of mine, she always points out the negative factors rather than encourage me to go ahead with it.

Will a pep talk help her? I don’t think so. What really does help her is to involve her in everything I do. My writing, my book readings, my art projects. Creativity dampens negativity. I really believe that.

And so I have started a new project with her. I let her talk about old times from her childhood, her marriage, being an army wife and a mother and I write it all down. When we have enough I’ll compile it and it will be something that her grandchildren who never got to meet their grandfather can read. I have noticed that when she talks about those golden days of her life her eyes light up and her voice is full of enthusiasm. I find no negativity there.

This is my pep talk for her. She talks and I write.

Daily Prompt: Pep Rally

  1. Let there be light | Nature Activities
  2. Die Trying | The Magic Black Book
  3. Sunset | Bright Moments Catcher
  4. Icicles on the house | Bright Moments Catcher
  5. Photo within a photo | Bright Moments Catcher
  6. Excellence is a Habit that Success Depends Upon | The PASSION PRESS™
  7. Afternoon sky | Nature Activities
  8. Requiem For Joe Southwick’s College Career? | The Jittery Goat
  9. Trees in sunlight | Tess Arts
  10. December | Tess Arts
  11. Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | My Atheist Blog
  12. Pep Talk | Motherhood and Beyond
  13. Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | Under the Monkey Tree
  14. I can see your dream turning into reality | મન ની વાત
  15. CHEERS to a Good Morning | It’s a wonderful F’N life
  16. Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | Musical Foodie Love
  17. Pep It Up! | Misifusa’s Blog
  18. Crowd Surf This Guy [Daily Prompt: Pep Rally] | unknowinglee
  19. The Little Things – Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | smoke&mirrors
  20. 207. Life Well Lived | Barely Right of Center
  21. Hey Jules | Neva Samaki
  22. Daily Prompt: CHEER | veryvanessalynn
  23. Pocketful of Sunshine | The Otter in my Jotter
  24. Tony’s Texts
  25. Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | Awl and Scribe
  26. Now go out there and DO IT big guy! | thoughtsofrkh
  27. Pep Talk for Tough Choices | Reinvention of Mama
  28. Daily post: Pep talk to politicians everywhere | helen meikle’s scribblefest
  29. Bring On The Clowns | Just Visiting This Planet
  30. Dear Ruby, ( My Sociopath Ex-Boss) | sayanything
  31. If The Eucalyptus Survived…. | Not the Family Business!
  32. Cheer- Daily Prompt | The Rider
  33. Gentle Exercise for Better Health | Kansa Muse
  34. Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | reyoflight
  35. Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | SERENDIPITY
  36. New post Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | Welcome to msxhan. The great tricks, tips, infos, poetry and much more.
  37. Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | robbiesdailyplanet
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  40. Willpower is not an energy drink | MC’s Whispers
  41. Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | The Story of a Guy
  42. to travel and beyond
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  44. Pep Rally | The Nameless One
  45. The Pep Talk We Need | Flowers and Breezes
  46. The Conundrum | Dog Pep
  47. Dear Angela, Dear Barak, | Life is great
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  49. Processing the life
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  51. Pep Rally: Cheers | Khana’s Web
  52. BE LIKE A CLOUD | hastywords
  53. Smile! | CurTales
  54. Daily Prompt: Pep Rally | Randomize ME
  55. Unpepped… | alienorajt
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  57. Northern Cardinal (Cheer) | photo potpourri

My charming son

Though children can at times be naughty little devils, they also know how to be charming and affectionate. My son can be a real charmer when he wants to:20121203_093832

When I lie down at night,

And think about the day,

With no doubt the highlight

Is when you come to say,

“Mama I want to kiss you!”

Elated, I open up my arms,

 My smiling face next to you,

Enraptured by your charms.

And then you hold sweetly,

My face in your chubby hands

And on my cheeks so neatly,

A cute little wet kiss lands!

The 3 stages

My husband thinks I’m a big miser, but he should be happy right? I don’t go about splashing his hard earned money. I try to buy at sales and look for good deals. Maybe it’s because I used to have a job and I know what it’s like to work hard to earn something. Nah, that’s not it, I’m just a big miser.

So the problem that arises is that if I ever do indulge myself, and buy something expensive I become the biggest pain in the neck. I go through these three stages.

Stage 1: Doubt. Did I really need to buy it? Should I have bought another style, another color?

Stage 2: Guilt. Why did I spend so much money on it when it doesn’t even look that good?

Stage 3: Self Assurance. Maybe it is pretty nice and really worth it.

Stage 1 and Stage 2 involves bothering my husband with questions, trying on the new merchandise and asking him hundred times how it looks. Of course when he answers without looking I have to ask him again.. and again till he says in exasperation “It looks fine!”

“Fine is not good enough for what I’ve spent on it” I answer.

“It looks good, OK?”

“You said fine to start with”.

So what I really need to do is break this habit of mine, skip Stage 1 and Stage 2 and land directly at Stage 3. I should learn to enjoy an expensive pair of shoes or a new piece of jewelry without feeling guilty. After all every woman deserves it once in a while doesn’t she? And I guess after having made that purchase, my husband just wants to be left alone.

Daily Prompt: Breakdown

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  2. The Needle Meeting | The Magic Black Book
  3. On Waiting…Again… | soletusknow
  4. Abusive relationships | alienorajt
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  6. Breaking The Daily Prompt Habit | The Jittery Goat
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  8. Daily Prompt Challenge ~ “Broken” | soletusknow
  9. Chatter – The story of two sides | Neva Samaki
  10. Breakdown | Life Confusions
  11. Daily post: Habits? What habits? | helen meikle’s scribblefest
  12. Waiting to break | crookedeyebrows
  13. Daily Prompt: Breakdown | Chronicles of an Anglo Swiss
  14. That Breakdown | The Magic Black Book
  15. Beautifully Broken and all the things in between… | Passionate Dreaming
  16. Daily Prompt: Breakdown | Awl and Scribe
  17. Not Enough Sleep | Flowers and Breezes
  18. Favorite Habit | Lost in Adeline’s
  19. Breakdown- More Pop Culture References | Blue Loft
  20. Bad habits? Got em. Do they matter? Not so sure. | RPMAS
  21. Daily Prompt: Breakdown | Crow Arrow, Inc.
  22. Raccoons! | Haiku By Ku
  23. Daily Prompt: Hard Habit to Break | My Atheist Blog
  24. Rushing | maunderingsofaninja
  25. Broken | Better Than Reality
  26. Why fix what ain’t broke? | Liquorstore Bear
  27. Daily Prompt: Breakdown – BROKEN | Ord i Bild
  28. Daily Prompt: Breakdown | Thirty, Start, Go!
  29. #firstworldproblems: Crappy Shows and Inner Conflict | The Otter in my Jotter
  30. Daily Prompt: Break The Bad Habits | DeafGuy Blog
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  37. For the “broken” « Subh Dasgupta’s Blog

A Journey of Ten Years

Phuket Zoo - Orchid garden & us (2003.10.25)Ten years ago I married a man whom I hardly knew. The match was arranged by our families and I gave my consent after a brief meeting with him in the presence of all our family members.

After the engagement he would come to visit me at home as I had not agreed to talk on the phone. I felt that unreserved phone conversations could lead to misunderstanding between two people who hardly knew each other. After all we had all our lives to get to know each other.

It may sound bizarre that two very educated people in this day and age agreed to get married without knowing each other. But ten years down the road we have found love and respect for each other, the ability to be comfortable with each other and let each other be comfortable in our own spaces. We have been together in sickness and in health. We trust each other and look after each other. We are independent people and yet we depend on each other. We may not hold hands in public but we share an intense attraction for each other.

We have got on each other’s nerves and got into arguments but I never remember having stopped talking to each other. There have been bad times too but we never gave up on each other. We just worked things out.

We both have a fondness for travel and discovering new places. Together we have seen 8 countries from the Far East to Europe to the United States. Not only were we learning about new cultures and people but also little by little of each other. It has been an exciting journey.

Yesterday we had gone out at night because my husband wanted to buy a screen protector for his new phone. It was out of stock and we decided to go home but stop for coffee on the way back. As we reached near the coffee place my husband asked me if I was up for it and I told him I was too tired and that we should just head home. We had stopped on the red light when a car apparently out of control crashed through the divider and towards us. It stopped just in front of us. The driver and the passenger were unhurt but if we had decided to go to the coffee place we would have been in the left most lane and surely would have been hit.

It was a scary experience and when I saw that car coming towards us I called out to my husband. That was my first reaction. After a while we both realized how close we had come to being hurt badly. We could have been in the hospital on our anniversary.

Instead, by the Grace of God we will celebrate our tenth wedding anniversary tomorrow night with our amazing son and close family next to the beautiful Dubai fountains.

A journey of ten years,

Around the world and with each other,

Are marriages made in heaven?

Yes maybe. For beyond us it is rather,

The factors that come into play

That bring two people together.

But then it’s up to us two

To make things work face to face

Never giving up on each other,

And forever praying for God’s grace.

Weekly Writing Challenge: My Funny Valentine?

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