No regrets

I sometimes wonder what would have happened if my father had allowed me to go to live in a hostel and study architecture.

Math was my favorite subject and I was also fond of drawing (though not very good) and when I finished school I thought architecture would be the ideal career for me. But the only college was in another city and that meant I would have to live in a hostel. My father thought I was too young to be living on my own and he refused to let me go.

I was not a rebel and I just agreed with his decision. I went to a local college, took Pre-engineering and ended up doing Masters in Electronics from a local University.

What if I had been more persistent and convinced my father to send me to the college to study architecture? Would it have made a difference to my life?

I think I would have struggled more. Maybe I could have set up my own company after graduating like I know some people did. And then I would have got married and had children. Would I have given up my career that easily? Or would I have gone back to work after a couple of years?

Somehow I still think I would have ended up at the same point in my life as I am at now. Except that instead of saying I had a career in Telecom I would have called myself an architect. It really wouldn’t have made much of a difference.

I can safely say that I’m glad that things turned out the way they did and I have no regrets. I’m also glad that I don’t have the choice to change decisions in real life because I’d be terrified to do it and not know where I’d end up.

There’s a prayer we say before taking big decisions and it’s something like this: “Dear God, please make things which are good for me easy to happen and the things which are bad for me, remove from my path and make me content with whatever happens.” And so I believe that all decisions that were taken and all things that happened were in some way (apparent or not so obvious) good for me. Thus there are no regrets and no need for iterations.

Daily Prompt: I Did it My Way

  1. Thawing inch by inch | Never Stationary
  2. Condemned | Perspectives on life, universe and everything
  3. Home | Perspectives on life, universe and everything
  4. It wasn’t even a nokia | Casually Short
  5. Dale And The Surreal | The Jittery Goat
  6. A Memory from the Kitchen Years | AS I PLEASE
  7. Second Chance | Momma Said There’d Be Days Like This
  8. The Affair: Daily Prompt | alienorajt
  9. Things I regret | muffinscout
  10. Into the Forest I Wish I Went | Lisa’s Kansa Muse
  11. DP Daily Prompt: I Did it My Way | Sabethville
  12. in your mother tongue, | y
  13. Daily Prompt: I Did it My Way | Incidents of a Dysfunctional Spraffer
  14. Climbing the Stick — Redux | Exploratorius
  15. Hindsight, the Road not Taken and a Conversation with a Man Named Nicodemus | meanderedwanderings
  16. Wish Upon A Star | marjanitalarosa
  17. Daily Post: Bye, Bye Paris | Willow Blackbird
  18. Daily Prompt: I Did it My Way | The Wandering Poet
  19. Equivocation | La Gatita Oscura
  20. It’s time to complain (Again) | Phelio a Random Post a Day
  21. Redo from Start! | L5GN
  22. His plan for me (pantoum) | peacefulblessedstar
  23. While I’m Away From You My Son | Raising Jed
  24. Too Much… | Tommia’s Tablet
  25. Wish to Uncover the hidden secrets of human brain | Outreach
  26. This is My Life | Real Momma Ramblings
  27. No Regrets Here | The Shotgun Girls
  28. Major Alert | Wanderlein
  29. OmG … Noodles Grow On My Head | So Not Simple
  30. Daily Prompt: I Did it My Way « Mama Bear Musings
  31. re-set | sarahscapes
  32. And THEN… Daily Prompt | I’m a Writer, Yes I Am
  33. Regrets In My Heart | Flowers and Breezes
  34. Daily Prompt: February 11 | A Balmy Life
  35. Iteration – photo | alienorajt
  36. If I Could Turn Back Time | Losing It
  37. Daily Prompt – I Won’t Bribe! | Views Splash!
  38. What I did for love | Life is great
  39. If I could turn back time, would he now walk differently? | My thoughts on a page.

Not so sweet sixteen

Why on earth do they call it sweet 16? I remember when I was that age I was extremely awkward and under confident. It was not till I was in my 20s that I had become more confident about my appearance and about what I wanted to do in life.

When I turned 16 I had just completed my O’Level exams and had summer holidays prior to starting college. This was the time when I had to decide what subjects to take and since I had done Science and Math in school it was a choice between Pre-Engineering and Pre-Medical.

I remember that whereas my parents had left it to me to decide, my elder brother and sister who were both studying to be doctors had strong opinions on what I should do. My brother was in favor of me following his footsteps and my sister was not. This was very confusing for me since they both had solid points in favor and against becoming a doctor. My brother thought that girls who became doctors had a good career ahead of them as there were plenty of job opportunities. Becoming anything else would just be a waste of time as there were not enough jobs in other fields for girls. My sister on the other hand felt that the studies were too difficult for someone not really interested in the subject. I always had an inclination towards Math.

So in the end I decided to take Pre-Engineering. I never became an Engineer (that’s another story); instead I did my MSc in Electronics and worked in a Telecom company. I’m glad that I did what I did because if I had become a doctor (and I seriously doubt if I could have maintained my sanity in 5 years of medical college) I might have never had a successful career, made lots of money and traveled the world. My sister as a doctor never got the opportunities I did and I am really grateful to her for pointing me in the right direction.

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Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen

  1. Watering pots | Vintage Photography
  2. My Floating Musings
  3. Bert Was A Thief (short fiction) | The Jittery Goat
  4. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | Under the Monkey Tree
  5. Daily Prompt: Sixteen « Vicariously Poetic
  6. Insert End of an Era Cliché Here | AS I PLEASE
  7. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | The Wandering Poet
  8. Inspiration of a Sixteen-year Old — A Haiku: Monday, January 20, 2014 | LisaRosier.com
  9. Sweet Sixteen | Geek Ergo Sum
  10. Not so Sweet Sixteen | Dance with the Rain
  11. Sixteen Candles and One Surprise Party | meanderedwanderings
  12. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | tnkerr-Writing Prompts and Practice
  13. It’s been an extremely long time since I was sixteen | thoughtsofrkh
  14. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | Vagabond
  15. Inside left blank for your own message | Kate Murray
  16. Sweet Sixteen – Quizmania | L5GN
  17. [M.M.X.I.V. 20] Hawai’i shirts | Never A Worry
  18. And this is why I lose my memories… | Rob’s Surf Report
  19. POEM: Sweet NOT Sixteen | Poetry by Nowelle
  20. 17 Again | Processing the life
  21. Was Hitler sweet at sixteen? | Mishe en Place
  22. Old and Wise… | Haiku By Ku
  23. Na segunda metade dos 15 | Sonhos desencontrados
  24. Sixteen Birthday | Flowers and Breezes
  25. Daily Prompt: Being Sixteen! | All Things Cute and Beautiful
  26. DP Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen http://sabethville.wordpress.com | Sabethville
  27. Some Girls Got Mustangs/Daily Prompt | I’m a Writer, Yes I Am
  28. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | Chronicles of an Anglo Swiss
  29. Daily Prompt – Sweet Sixteen – You can always have fun | storyofmylife1993
  30. http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2014/01/20/daily-prompt-sixteen/ | all my likes
  31. Opening the Doors of Perception | The Silver Leaf Journal
  32. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | Poetry
  33. Sweet Sixteen | The Story of a Guy
  34. Sweet Sixteen – A letter to my 16 year old self | Stephen Chapman
  35. I’d Rather Remember My 39th Birthday
  36. Sweet sixteen | Sue’s Trifles
  37. The 5 worst pieces of advice I’ve ever gotten about high school | Never Stationary
  38. A Good Day to Celebrate | LenzExperiments
  39. Sweet Sixteen | Lead us from the Unreal to the Real
  40. Sweet sixteen, have you ever….. | bagofbuttons
  41. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | Winging it
  42. My (Not-So-Super) Sweet Sixteen – Compass & Quill
  43. Bizarrely, strange… | Life as a country bumpkin…not a city girl
  44. Weekly Daily Prompt #2: … | The Degeneration of My Mind
  45. The Plan | Sunday Epidemic
  46. The love of my life? | Emotional Fitness
  47. Sixteen Suggestions. | Twenty-Four Problems
  48. Daily Prompt: Double Figure Eight | One Starving Activist
  49. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | Basically Beyond Basic
  50. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | To Breathe is to Write
  51. Sweet Sixteen. | Babbleogue
  52. What Year was That? | An Easterly Direction
  53. 16 and I innocently walked home | The Seminary of Praying Mantis
  54. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | Occasional Stuff
  55. Daily prompt: Bleak sixteen | helen meikle’s scribblefest
  56. Heartbreak Sweethearts | Reclaiming My Narnia
  57. Staying in Focus: Sweet Sixteen: The Bracelet | Staying in Focus
  58. Turning Sixteen: Chester Edition | Nodus Tollens
  59. Daily Prompt: Sixteen | Artful Homesteader
  60. Sixteen and Counting | Half Baked Log
  61. Writing Challenge: Sweet Sixteen | Miss Diaries
  62. DAY 19: IMAGINE 16 | DANDELION’S DEN
  63. Sweet Sixteen: A Daily Writing Prompt | 365 Days of Thank You
  64. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | A Room of One’s Own
  65. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | Delicious Ambiguity
  66. My Surprisingly Super and Sweet 16 | I Didn’t Just Wake Up This Morning with a Craving
  67. Summer Rain | sunshine in winter
  68. Summer Rain | sunshine in winter
  69. Am I Getting Old? | djgarcia94
  70. Daily Prompt: Sweet Sixteen | Nola Roots, Texas Heart

A Journey of Ten Years

Phuket Zoo - Orchid garden & us (2003.10.25)Ten years ago I married a man whom I hardly knew. The match was arranged by our families and I gave my consent after a brief meeting with him in the presence of all our family members.

After the engagement he would come to visit me at home as I had not agreed to talk on the phone. I felt that unreserved phone conversations could lead to misunderstanding between two people who hardly knew each other. After all we had all our lives to get to know each other.

It may sound bizarre that two very educated people in this day and age agreed to get married without knowing each other. But ten years down the road we have found love and respect for each other, the ability to be comfortable with each other and let each other be comfortable in our own spaces. We have been together in sickness and in health. We trust each other and look after each other. We are independent people and yet we depend on each other. We may not hold hands in public but we share an intense attraction for each other.

We have got on each other’s nerves and got into arguments but I never remember having stopped talking to each other. There have been bad times too but we never gave up on each other. We just worked things out.

We both have a fondness for travel and discovering new places. Together we have seen 8 countries from the Far East to Europe to the United States. Not only were we learning about new cultures and people but also little by little of each other. It has been an exciting journey.

Yesterday we had gone out at night because my husband wanted to buy a screen protector for his new phone. It was out of stock and we decided to go home but stop for coffee on the way back. As we reached near the coffee place my husband asked me if I was up for it and I told him I was too tired and that we should just head home. We had stopped on the red light when a car apparently out of control crashed through the divider and towards us. It stopped just in front of us. The driver and the passenger were unhurt but if we had decided to go to the coffee place we would have been in the left most lane and surely would have been hit.

It was a scary experience and when I saw that car coming towards us I called out to my husband. That was my first reaction. After a while we both realized how close we had come to being hurt badly. We could have been in the hospital on our anniversary.

Instead, by the Grace of God we will celebrate our tenth wedding anniversary tomorrow night with our amazing son and close family next to the beautiful Dubai fountains.

A journey of ten years,

Around the world and with each other,

Are marriages made in heaven?

Yes maybe. For beyond us it is rather,

The factors that come into play

That bring two people together.

But then it’s up to us two

To make things work face to face

Never giving up on each other,

And forever praying for God’s grace.

Weekly Writing Challenge: My Funny Valentine?

  1. I’m a Writer, Yes I Am
  2. MY FAIR LADY – GARRY ARMSTRONG | SERENDIPITY
  3. Daily Prompt: Unconventional Love – Strangely True | SERENDIPITY
  4. MY STRANGELY WONDERFUL ROMANCE | SERENDIPITY
  5. My Funny Valentine | Vampire Maman
  6. Hallmark holiday | Mindful Digressions
  7. False Expectations | snapshotsofawanderingheart
  8. Playlist | Perceptive Pot Clueless Kettle
  9. Fragrant valentine | The Seminary of Praying Mantis
  10. Valentine’s Day Can’t Insult My Intelligence if There’s Snow | Bumblepuppies
  11. Love Surrounds You | ReFreshing Life
  12. Lessons from the Ghosts of Valentines Past | The Femindiary
  13. Day 25: Why I Married a Man who got me a Hairdryer for Valentine’s Day | The Ravenously Disappearing Woman
  14. Validation Day – Valentine’s Day from an Honest Woman’s Perspective | Shoot the messenger
  15. Weekly Writing Challenge| Single Awareness Day | Amy (and The Teddy With Sunglasses)
  16. my first valentine | Musings of a Random Mind
  17. Afraid of Valentine’s Day? | Myammy! Moving in together at 50…
  18. Weekly Writing Challenge: My Funny Valentine. It’s Not Always FUNny. | Tales from the Motherland
  19. I’ve been alone for a long time | “The Ish,” presented by the Bohemian Rock Star
  20. Ah Bloody Valentines! | The life of T
  21. Brief facts on Valentines day/Weekly Writing challenge | standinginthestorm
  22. Weekly Writing Challenge – Valentine – The Hopeless Unromantic |
  23. I Should Have At Least Called | Sam’s Online Journal
  24. Ode to My Valentine | DCTdesigns Creative Canvas
  25. Weekly Writing Challenge: My Funny Valentine? | imagination
  26. Not Your Average Valentine | The Short Pages
  27. My Funny Valentine: Monday Monster Mashup meets the Weekly Writing Challenge! | jak & Cimmy’s Journal Jar
  28. (Un)Funny Valentine – Daily Post “My Funny Valentine?” Challenge 2/10/2014 | blogged artistry
  29. To My Valentine… | Babbleogue
  30. Love of Many Shoes | Mary J Melange
  31. Valentine, Part Two/DP Challenge | I’m a Writer, Yes I Am
  32. It’s Valentine’s Day! | TNT
  33. St. Hallmark Day Doth Approach | The Eclectic Poet
  34. Valentine’s Day…some wifely advice
  35. The Boy I Married | East Meets Breast
  36. The Valentine’s Letter I wished I’d sent…. | Brownies, Pixies & Horny Toads
  37. [WWC] Valentine’s day | Reatividades
  38. My Funny Valentine? | “Crone-ing”
  39. My Forever Crush | My Weigh To Lose
  40. Weekly Writing Challenge: My Funny Valentine? – Love, Love, Love | SA:ME (사메)
  41. A STRANGELY WONDERFUL ROMANCE | SERENDIPITY
  42. Last Minute Expressions of Love | Moments for the journey
  43. The Good Wife | Cabin Pressure May Change
  44. Weekly Writing Challenge-Love As An Earthling- A Comedy | The Lyons Den
  45. We Will Review The Cows! | Not the Family Business!
  46. Preparing for My First Real Valentine’s Day | Lilly Lane
  47. Get your lovin’ on | why i left my job
  48. VISITAS Y PAISES | palabrasdecielo.wordpress.com
  49. » Weekly Writing Challenge: My Funny Valentine? | Chiquitita
  50. DAILY POST: Weekly Writing Challenge | the story of my life
  51. Love Yourself | thenaturalprofessor
  52. Weekly Writing Challenge: My Funny Valentine | No Apologies
  53. Ghost Forest | litadoolan