Little shoes, Big Assessments

In Dubai and apparently in most of GCC when children start school, they have to go through an assessment. Barely out of their diapers, these children as young as 2 1/2 are put into groups without their parents and observed and asked questions. For some the session ends in crying and being bundled off to their alarmed parents. For others it is an anxious wait of 45 min to an hour for the parents until they see their young ones again.

Last year my son went through a similar assessment and fortunately he was one of the children who survived the hour long session. The assessment was followed by a 2 weeks waiting (torture) time after which the school told me that they didn’t have space for him. Why did they assess him in the first place, I will never know.

This year he went through 2 more assessments for 2 schools as I wanted to make sure that he got in at least one of them. He was offered a place in both schools and I chose the one I thought was better.

And then my husband decided to change jobs and move us to Bahrain.

So the process of school hunting started all over again. Most of the well known schools had already closed for admission but I managed to apply in one of the schools which is also known to be good. This time his assessment was less painful as it was an individual one which only lasted 15 minutes and I was told the positive result straight away. I was also not stressed because by now my son at 4 1/2 has evolved into a confident young boy who is ready to talk to everyone and anyone. (If he hasn’t talked to you yet, it’s only because he hasn’t met you.)

And so my son has passed this difficult phase of assessments though I suspect it was far more difficult for me than for him and I look forward to him doing well in the “big” school.

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Getting to school

“I’ll put you in jail and lock you up” announced the little boy with the Dusty backpack.

“Then who will run the nursery?” answered the Principal with a wry smile on her face.

The little boy’s embarrassed mother hovered behind him. “Oh he’s just being a policeman today..” she said weakly to the Principal.

That’s my son as he entered the nursery today. Every day getting him inside is a monumental task. Today he went of his own accord but apparently it was to make this announcement. He’s not even scared of his Principal. Everyone is scared of her, even me.

My mother has promised to give him a prize at the end of the week if he goes every day without making a fuss. She’s bought a few small windup toys to give him, a little footballer that walks, a little penguin, an airplane with a pilot in it and a crab inside a shell. But even giving him a little incentive is not working.

Yesterday it took me 20 minutes to get him inside. 10 minutes he was squatting near the car and refusing to budge and another 10 minutes outside the nursery door. Finally I had to ask the assistant to come and get him.

I talked to his teacher about it. She told me that as soon as he enters the class he forgets that he didn’t want to come. He works well the whole day and interacts with everyone. All this fuss is just for me.

It starts when he finishes his breakfast. “Ok now get ready for school”, I tell him as I pack his bag. “I don’t want to go to school. I want to play with my toys.”

He’s too big now for me to physically bundle him into the car and into the school. I have to convince him somehow. And he doesn’t tell me why he doesn’t want to go. “You’re alone at home and there are no other girls or boys to play with”, I try to tell him, but all my arguments fall on deaf ears.

My husband works in another country during the week so it’s all up to me to get him to school every day. Yesterday I was so stressed out I ended up in tears. I’ve tried everything and I don’t know what to do now.

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Daily Prompt: Standout

The last time I stoodout in my whole class was when I was dressed as George, The Smartest Giant in Town. I wore just one shoe as I had given the other to a mouse to make her house, (over sized) trousers, a yellow shirt and a tie which reached my knees! I had fun dressing up, but I felt a little shy when the teacher took our photograph.

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Starting school in Dubai

Mummy secures little Eva in the car seat and drives to the nursery. The little girl is crying hysterically as her mother hands over her bag with the morning snack and pampers along with a baby toilet seat. Eva is 18 months old and today is her first day of nursery. She will spend 5 hours at the nursery while Mummy enjoys her “freedom”. This is not fiction. This happens in Dubai.

So what do such small kids even do at nursery besides take naps and nappy changes? An 18 month old child has hardly started potty training and can only speak a few words.

Compared to Dubai, kids in the US start kindergarten at the age of 5 and in the UK they start nursery at 3 and then school at 4 or 5. Are children in Dubai more advanced than their counterparts in the UK and US and need to start learning sooner?

After spending 2 to 3 years in nursery it’s time to start school. But hey it’s not so easy. Parents have to register at a number of schools with a non-refundable registration fee of around $135 at each school. Even then a place is not guaranteed.

Ethan is going to be 3 at the start of the academic year and he has been lucky enough to be called for an assessment. Yes, even for starting school he has to go through an assessment. He is to enter a room full of strangers without his parents and answer questions correctly and confidently. He better not confuse his yellows from reds or his circles from ovals or else he will be deemed unfit to enter school. If he clears the assessment he will be put on a waiting list and if there is a place left for him, his parents will receive the lucky letter.

The whole process is extremely stressful and to add to it expensive for the parents. I went through it for my son and in the end I just had to go for the school affiliated with his nursery as I couldn’t get him admission anywhere else. I think it was easier for me getting into university in my hometown than it was getting my 3 year old in to school in Dubai!