I suppose it’s very natural that when a couple has been blessed with at least one son and and one daughter, they find it their divine right to advise me to have another child and fast.
“Your son needs a sister!”
“Aren’t you planning to have another child?”
“Isn’t the gap quite big already, you need to plan your next child!”
This apparently is not a cultural phenomena but a universal one and as an expat living in the Middle East I get the same advice from everyone whether they are from Venezuela or from Pakistan.
Of course I must be absolutely miserable that I haven’t been able to produce another offspring in the last 5 and a half years. I must miss terribly keeping awake at night, changing pampers, potty training and toddler tantrums. What’s not to miss about having your hands in baby poo in the middle of the night? Or trying to shop for groceries with a screaming toddler in tow.
Yes, how unhappy I must be now that I have time for myself to pursue creative and healthy avenues like learning the piano or how to play tennis. That my son has lots of friends to play with and I keep him entertained and busy all the time.
Dear Family of Four/Five, Yes it would have been lovely if my son could have had a sister but it didn’t happen and I’m sorry if I don’t want to make myself miserable about it. In fact I am very happy with my situation. My little boy is perfect and smart and handsome and I’m truly blessed to have him. And no I don’t want do IUF/IVF or whatever else is out there as there was no reason for me not to get pregnant without it. So if God decided that I should have only one child, who am I to argue against that?
So next time you want to comment on why I have only one child, DON’T!
We’re a family of three, live with it!