I sometimes wonder what would have happened if my father had allowed me to go to live in a hostel and study architecture.
Math was my favorite subject and I was also fond of drawing (though not very good) and when I finished school I thought architecture would be the ideal career for me. But the only college was in another city and that meant I would have to live in a hostel. My father thought I was too young to be living on my own and he refused to let me go.
I was not a rebel and I just agreed with his decision. I went to a local college, took Pre-engineering and ended up doing Masters in Electronics from a local University.
What if I had been more persistent and convinced my father to send me to the college to study architecture? Would it have made a difference to my life?
I think I would have struggled more. Maybe I could have set up my own company after graduating like I know some people did. And then I would have got married and had children. Would I have given up my career that easily? Or would I have gone back to work after a couple of years?
Somehow I still think I would have ended up at the same point in my life as I am at now. Except that instead of saying I had a career in Telecom I would have called myself an architect. It really wouldn’t have made much of a difference.
I can safely say that I’m glad that things turned out the way they did and I have no regrets. I’m also glad that I don’t have the choice to change decisions in real life because I’d be terrified to do it and not know where I’d end up.
There’s a prayer we say before taking big decisions and it’s something like this: “Dear God, please make things which are good for me easy to happen and the things which are bad for me, remove from my path and make me content with whatever happens.” And so I believe that all decisions that were taken and all things that happened were in some way (apparent or not so obvious) good for me. Thus there are no regrets and no need for iterations.
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Thank you for sharing with us the prayer 🙂
You’re welcome 🙂
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I would put money on your love of Architecture always enriching your life. You are so gifted to major in Electronics (and be a writer). I for one am impressed. There is so much hope in this post and I feel too that we always end up in the right/best place. 🙂
That feeling that you are in the best place will always keep you content and happy. God bless.
P.S. Thank you for calling me a writer! 🙂
A very good prayer. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
It’s a very powerful one. Tried and tested.
🙂
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The most important thing I believe is you are happy. By not going against your father’s wishes you made him happy. What you hoped to be and which did not materialize did not make you unhappy.So why should you talk about regret?
Daily Prompts always have some kind of string attached, it is up to us to take it or leave it.
Yes true. Thanks for reading and commenting.
I love this prayer… 🙂 Thanks for posting it. I’m on the edge of a big decision and I guess somewhere inside of me this prayer has taken shape. I am treading carefully forward and paying attention to what works and what doesn’t. This prayer is my new friend.
I am so happy I could help. All the best to you for your decision.
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I loved your prayer because this is the exact prayer I said ten years ago…when I was totally confused about life…I believe whatever happens always happens for good…at the end everything does fall into places….
Yes it truly does, it’s on my mind because my family is at the crossroads of a big decision. Hope all goes well.